#MentalHealthMonday - Living in the Present
Updated: Nov 19, 2019
I had a thought the other day, and wanted to share here on a blog. I think if I'm not going to be doing a mental health Monday podcast, I should keep the theme and do SOMETHING Mental Health Related on Mondays.
Living in the present. Sometimes is easier said than done.
I haven't been diagnosed with any mental illness, but am in touch enough with my emotions to know when signs of anxiety or depression are sneaking up on me...its something we ALL deal with, even on a small scale.
One thing that triggers MY anxiety, is the constant thought of things I SHOULD be doing. I should be doing laundry. I should be calling my Mom. I should be working ahead on that project. I should be making more time for your kids. I should be getting ahead on my Christmas cards. Here's the thing - maybe you SHOULD be doing all those things. But what what are you doing NOW? Worrying. Making things worse in your own mind.
Try living in the present. If you are sitting in one place, with your mind racing about all your obligations in life and what you SHOULD be doing, take a deep breath and live in the moment. What are you doing NOW? Set aside all your things that you think you should be doing and start worrying about what you ARE doing. This could be a sign that you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Slow down and take your time.
Ferris Bueller said it best in the 80's. Live moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around every once in a while, you're going to miss it:
It's true, though.
One thing I like to do is the "worst case scenario" game. What's the ABSOLUTE WORST that can happen in a situation? If you don't get your Christmas cards written out today, the WORST thing that happens, is you send them tomorrow. Trust me, nobody is sitting around checking their mailbox for their annual card from your family. I know you think a lot of yourself, and I'm glad you have a high confidence level that everyone will judge you for not getting them out sooner, but here's the thing - if nobody is going to DIE, and nobody is going to be FINANCIALLY CRIPPLED because of something you have done, don't worry about it! Stop sweating the small stuff, and stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Take some time to relax.
You've earned it.
Now, if you're CONSTANTLY sitting in bed, not doing anything, putting of simple every day tasks up to and including work, it could very well be a sign of a bigger mental health issue, and it may be time to talk to a professional.
But if you're just overwhelmed with another To-Do list - make a list, set it aside, and take some time for you. Besides - nothing on your list is going to get done with any quality if you are mentally exhausted. Don't feel guilty for chilling out every once in a while and taking time for YOU. Even an hour or two. You'd be amazed how much your work and life will improve if you take some time for you every once in a while, and stop putting so much pressure to get EVERYTHING done all at once.
Live in the moment.
There you go. Inspirational? Maybe. Hope it was a good read.
I'll try and hammer out a blog once per week or so, and make it a regular occurrence here. After all, I've got this blog - might as well use it for good!
Talk to you in the morning,